Advent: Leaders in Waiting

Lectionary Readings for the first week of Advent: Isaiah 64:1-9; Psalm 80:1-7, 17-19; 1 Corinthians 1:3-9; Mark 13:24-37
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“No one has heard, no ear has perceived, no eye has seen any God besides you, who works for those who wait for him.”

Isaiah 64:4

The seasons of the church year are meant to teach us something about the spiritual life we need to learn. Beyond mere information about the spiritual life, they offer us the opportunity to lean into aspects of the spiritual life we might not otherwise choose or even know how to choose. These seasons give us a chance to practice some of the key disciplines of the Christian life and to do it together as a community of faith. Reading Scripture from a common lectionary gives us a way to join with Christians around the world in allowing ourselves to be guided and shaped by common themes.

Advent, in particular, gives us the opportunity to practice the challenging spiritual discipline of waiting. Advent, which literally means “arrival,” teaches us to wait for the coming of Christ into our world, not just way back in Biblical times, but now—in the places where we long for his presence and need his intervention.

Training in Waiting

This season ushers us into a special kind of waiting that is alert and watchful, patient and yet full of anticipation. Like the doorkeeper in the Gospel reading for the first week of Advent who is assigned to keep watch while the master is away, we are instructed to be aware and awake so that we don’t miss Christ’s coming in ways that we could not possibly predict. This is the kind of waiting that has us perched on the edge of our seats!

For those of us who are leaders, waiting is quite the conundrum, and most of us are not very good at it. We want what we want and we want it yesterday. We want it on our own terms, just like we envisioned it. Most of us have not had much training in waiting and there is no seminary course that teaches one how to do it!

And yet waiting is a necessary and very humbling aspect of life in general and the spiritual life in particular. There is something we need, and having to wait for it puts us in a position where we are not in control. The doctor will see us when s/he is ready. The cashier will serve us when it is our turn. If we refuse to wait and abort the process prematurely, we are left empty-handed.

So how do we lead others in something we are not very good at ourselves?

The Power of Inner Authority

What people need most is leaders who can call them to the disciplines of the spiritual journey from the kind of inner authority that comes through experience. To become leaders in waiting we must begin by learning how to wait ourselves. Richard Rohr calls the discipline of waiting in the spiritual life “liminal space.”

The word liminal comes from the Latin word limina, which means threshold. Liminal space is “a unique spiritual position where human beings hate to be but where the biblical God is always leading them. It is when you have left the tried and true, but have not yet been able to replace it with anything else. It is when you are finally out of the way. It is when you are between your old comfort zone and any possible new answer. If you are not trained in how to hold anxiety, how to live with ambiguity, how to entrust and wait, you will run…anything to flee this terrible cloud of unknowing.”

Advent is an opportunity for us to practice waiting in liminal space. If we are intentional about how we enter into this season, it has the potential to teach us how to wait in our own lives; then when the only option for us and for the people looking to us for leadership is to wait on God, we know what we’re doing.

Hold! Hold! Hold!

The significance of a leader’s inner authority in calling others to wait, is reflected in a scene from the movie Braveheart. William Wallace is leading his ragtag band of Scottish soldiers into battle for the first time. They have none of the accoutrements of war that the opposing army has–no weapons, no chariots, no horses, no uniforms. All they have is homemade spears that must be thrown at just the right time; if they throw their crude javelins too soon, they will fall in front of the opposing army; if they wait too long, the spears will sail over their opponents heads. Timing is everything and they know they must wait for Wallace’s command.

The British army comes thundering toward them. In the faces of these untrained soldiers, there is a combination of alertness, fear, readiness, courage and will. Wallace is shouting “Hold! Hold! Hold!” and as spectators we are wondering if they will have the restraint to wait for exactly the right moment. Will they trust Wallace enough to wait even though their lives are in danger and everything in them screams to do something?

If you’ve seen the movie, you know the answer. They do hold! They wait until Wallace gives the word, and then they launch their spears. These homemade weapons find their mark and the opposing army—with all its sophisticated wartime accoutrements—turns tail and runs. Something about the inner strength and authority of their leader caused these men to be willing to wait and then act according that leader’s instruction.

Rhythms of Leadership

What kind of leader is able to call people to wait on God when waiting runs so powerfully against our human nature? Only a leader who has waited for God in the darkest moments of his or her own deep need can effectively teach others to wait. Only a leader who has stood still and waited for God’s deliverance in the place where they feared for their very life has the inner authority to ask others to do the same. Because we have met God in that frightening, liminal space we are able to stand firm and believe God in a way that makes it possible for others to believe as well.

This is one of the great rhythms of leadership—the rhythm of alert waiting and courageous action. We wait on God until he gives us clear direction and then we have the courage to act when the time is right. Spiritual leadership is about knowing which one is called for when.

Advent is a season when we become leaders in waiting. Such leadership begins as we allow ourselves to become aware of the liminal spaces in our own lives, and determine to keep watch for Christ’s presence in those very places.

Waiting Room of the Soul

So where is the place in your life right now where you know you need to wait? Where do you long for God to “tear open the heavens and come down” and do some awesome thing that you do not expect? Where are the places in your heart where the longing runs deep—the longing to be restored, to be saved, to be led tenderly like a shepherd leads his sheep?

Where is the place in your ministry where you need to be “strengthened to the end” by the presence of God revealed to you in some new way?

These questions usher us into the waiting room of the soul, which we occupy more fully during the season of Advent. In this space we wait for God to revive us, to restore us and to reveal himself to us in ways we can see and know. Here we as leaders are called to hold and to hold on until we discover that Jesus is near and we see the Son of Man coming through the clouds of our own lives with great power and glory.

And so we pray…

In the awesome name of God,
in the victorious name of Jesus,
in the mysterious name of the Spirit,
we acknowledge our God
and we wait;
we are still
we are silent
and we wait.

©Ruth Haley Barton, 2017. This article is not to be reproduced without permission from the author or the Transforming Center.
Richard Rohr, is quoted from a sermon entitled “Living in Liminal Space” by Killian Noe, April 7, 2002.
The prayer is taken from Bread of Tomorrow, Janet Morley, ed. (Mary Knoll, NY: Orbis Books, 1992), p.18.

Ruth Haley Barton

Ruth (Doctor of Divinity, Northern Seminary) is Founder and Chief Essence Officer of the Transforming Center. A teacher, seasoned spiritual director (Shalem Institute), and retreat leader, Ruth is the author of numerous books and resources on the spiritual life including Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership, Sacred Rhythms, Life Together in Christ, Pursuing God’s Will Together, Invitation to Solitude and Silence, Invitation to Retreat, and Embracing Rhythms of Work and Rest (Oct 2022).
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A friend referred me to this article. It is provocative, refreshing, intelligent, on point, worthwhile, enlightening and transforming. It is a rare gem amongst the plethora of fodder out there. Truly provides graduate work for the soul of a leader. It certainly has given me much to work on in order to develop as a leader. Thanks.

The season of waiting is a season of anticipation – “in the midst of”. In the midst of difficulties and possibilities we discover the presence of Jesus. Thanks for the reminder that advent is about discovering Jesus not so much about awaiting His provision for me.

Thank you for offering this Advent meditation, Ruth. For the first time in 10+years, I’m not “planning” the next year – personally or professionally. This is an “inner” challenge in the sense that it’s been my modus operandi every December for over a decade. This is an “outer” challenge – especially professionally – because of all the strategic planning sessions I’m currently involved in my organization. I’m also known as the “strategy guy” on my team – so it’s particularly challenging in light of this. However, this year, I’ve made my most intentional Advent commitment ever: I’m resigned to wait on God – and trust that he’ll act on those who wait on him – no matter what inner or outer forces are compelling me. To seek God further, I’m on a modified fast for Advent – somewhat challenging with the readily available holiday food that is constantly presenting itself. I’m also fasting from the news during Advent and to give that time to God. Thus, your article needed encouragement and perspective during this time. Advent blessings to you and all the TC community.

What wonderful and challenging Advent practices God has invited you into, Kirk! Thank you for sharing them with us. I especially like the invitation to fast from the news –this is the perfect time for that!

Thank you for this article, Advent: Leaders in Waiting, it was an encouragement to me. Recently, I believe the Holy Spirit led me to your site and the above article coincided with His request for me personally to wait, be still, silent, and daily sit with Jesus and read the Word aloud to Him, worship, pray, and listen as Jesus transforms me from the inside out. Thanks be to God for His leadership.

Thanks for this beautiful word of encouragement Ruth. I have been in waiting mode in one area of life for 38 years – waiting to see God’s glory displayed.

Thank you Ruth. I’m a pastoral leader who needed this today.

Love how God works…

What a powerful article and statement of God’s reality and truth. So much of our lives are seemingly spent “waiting” and “trusting” yet coming to realize that we have not missed a thing and everything is in divine order. Patience is truly a virtue if we but get out of the way. Ms. Ruth, you have an amazing gift that I trust you will continue to share with the world.

Yes! So true and so hard to learn to do. Thank you very much for expressing so well this essential part of being a disciple and spiritual leader, and for learning it yourself. God’s grace, strength, patience hope and joy in the journey.

You’re welcome!

This article so spoke to me this morning as I wrestle with what appears to be God’s silence. I know He is there but right now as I struggle with my husbands terminal illness I feel so alone. I I connected with the discipline of waiting, holding, even when I want to run away. Waiting for Him to show Himself as the one who revives and restores in ways I can see so I know He is near.
As I reflect on Thanksgiving I realize God brought restoration and healing to relationships long broken. We were joined this year by my ex-husband, my husbands ex-wife and most of our children. Only God could have brought this healing in our family. This was His light shining in the darkness.


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