Advent 2016: Enlarged in the Waiting

“Of all types of waiting, the waiting of pregnancy is most like the waiting that we do during Advent. The waiting of pregnancy is like the waiting we do for God.” – Wendy Wright

For four years my wife and I were eager to have a baby. At first, naturally, we tried like everyone else. After some time, we had tests. Then we tried drugs—as prescribed by my urologist. At one point we considered artificial means and later looked into adoption. We were praying and trying and waiting and hoping, all a bit anxiously, no doubt.

One spring Sunday at our church in Miami, at a point in the service open for worshipers to speak words of testimony or encouragement as led by the Spirit, a young man said something that caught my attention. André was a rotund, deep-voiced Jamaican temporarily among us as a participant in the Youth with a Mission program hosted by our church. “I sense from the Lord that a couple here today has been trying to have children, but unsuccessfully; the Lord is saying: trust in me and you will receive the desires of your heart.”

Open to Mystery

I was generally open-minded about the charismatic workings of the Spirit, but more as an observer than a practitioner. Was this a prophecy of some sort? Was it meant for us? That’s what our priest suggested when André asked him who might be the subject of this pronouncement. Father Cliff pointed him to us. We listened, neither dismissing his words with skepticism nor seizing on them with enthusiasm; rather, we tucked them away to ponder quietly in our hearts. And we waited.

André returned to Jamaica. We went off that summer to Vancouver for study. Our friends prayed earnestly with us about our situation and listened to our confused questions: Adopt? Remain without children? What were our desires, really? They prayed with us and for us.

Shortly after Christmas, out of the blue, we received a brief note from André in Jamaica: “Have been praying for you and wondered what was up.” I was startled. I had not thought of him for months. A trace of hope rose within me. I was even more startled when only days later Charlene learned that she was pregnant.

Nine months later, Evan was born.

At Home in the Waiting

I am mindful just now of the innumerable stories of couples seeking to have children. Many are wildly successful and others deeply disappointed. Some joyfully adopt. Some of those adoptions become painful down the road. Some give birth to babies with Down syndrome or other heartbreaking conditions. And many others are disheartened by miscarriages.

So many stories, such a wide range of emotions. Such long and arduous and prayerful waiting—sometimes followed by joy and sometimes by hard-won acceptance of God’s will in our lives.

These words from Scripture remind us that waiting is a reality for all of us in one way or another. “All around us we observe a pregnant creation. The difficult times of pain throughout the world are simply birth pangs. But it’s not only around us; it’s within us. The Spirit of God is arousing us within. We’re also feeling the birth pangs. These sterile and barren bodies of ours are yearning for full deliverance. That is why waiting does not diminish us, any more than waiting diminishes a pregnant mother. We are enlarged in the waiting. We, of course, don’t see what is enlarging us. But the longer we wait, the larger we become, and the more joyful our expectancy.” (Romans 8:22-25 The Message)

The Heart of Advent

Advent is a season in which we practice waiting; we wait for the coming of God. We need him to come. Our world is messed up and we are messed up. We lament our condition and long for God to set things right, to make us better. So we pray and watch for signs of his presence. We do all we know to do so that we are open and ready.

In the midst of hardship and disappointment, we continue to wait. We wait in hope. We believe that something is happening in our world, something is taking shape in our lives, something large, light-filled and life-giving. Even in December’s lengthening darkness, this seed of joyful hope grows within us. We are pregnant with it. In our waiting, we are enlarged. God is coming!

The Three Comings of Christ

In Advent we focus on three “comings” of Christ: his arrival in history as a baby born of Mary, his return in fearsome glory at the end of time and his intermediate entrance into our own lives. During Advent we are engaged by the prophets of Israel—Isaiah, Zephaniah, Micah, Malachi— and their messianic visions. We are confronted by John the Baptist’s stern call to prepare for Jesus by repenting. We are beckoned to walk with Mary and Joseph in their anxiety and expectation. We are sobered by the teachings of Jesus and his apostles on the judgment to come at the end of the age.

But to seriously attend to these things in a few short weeks (Advent lasts twenty-two to twenty-eight days, depending on the year) is not easy, especially when these weeks are for many of us the busiest and most demanding of the year. How can we experience Christ coming anew into our already full lives? How can we be absorbed in hope when we are so harried? How can our lives be enlarged in so brief a time?

Clearly it takes some work, some wrestling against the culture and our own proclivities. But making it happen isn’t all on us. A grace is also at work in this season.

The Slow Work of God

Think again of a pregnant woman. Yes, she must pay attention to her body and take care of herself, but the life within her mysteriously takes shape and steadily grows of its own accord. As Luci Shaw encourages: “During the waiting times God is vibrantly at work within us. And if through the Spirit of God we have been united with the Father in dynamic relationship, if God has sown his gospel seed in us, then Jesus is being formed within us, little by little, day by day. But we have to wait if the Word is to become flesh in us. And that kind of waiting feels like work.”

The paradoxical work of waiting.

The prophets and psalmists can help us. Old Elizabeth and Zechariah can help us. Their son John can help us. Young, expectant Mary can help us. We can enter their stories, listen to their words and pray their prayers over these weeks. By so doing, we deepen our longing and heighten our hope for God’s coming. By so doing, we become more attuned to the joyous wonder of Christ’s incarnation and better prepared for the fierce glory of his return. By so doing, year after year, we will be changed as Word becomes flesh in us.

Adapted from Living the Christian Year: Time to Inhabit the Story of God by Bobby Gross. Copyright (c) 2009 by Bobby Gross. Used by permission of InterVarsity Press, P.O. Box 1400, Downers Grove, IL 60515, USA

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Bobby Gross

is director of graduate and faculty ministries for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship (IVCF). Bobby serves on the national board of Christians in the Visual Arts (CIVA) and lives in Atlanta, Georgia. Previously, Bobby was a national field director for IVCF, served as an InterVarsity chaplain at the University of Florida, launched campus ministry in South Florida and was the regional director for New York/New Jersey. Bobby is the author of Living the Christian Year: Time to Inhabit the Story of God.
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Love it! Thank you!!

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These words in Bobby’s story resonated most with me: “We listened, neither dismissing his words with skepticism nor seizing on them with enthusiasm; rather, we tucked them away to ponder quietly in our hearts. And we waited.” I felt so comforted by their quiet & gracious embrace of Andre’s words, demonstrating an openess to how God would choose to work. I was soothed by the absence of ceremony in either a rejection or proclamation. How very good God is to us, patiently eager to profoundly shape us in significantly specific ways as we learn to fully REST in him.

Thanks for having Bobby Gross share. I’ve appreciated his book, and his insights into advent are valuable.

Thanks you for these wise words during a period of personal waiting.

Thank you. Having birthed five children I can surely understand your analogy. There is no waiting quite like that. As I eagerly await the return of our Savior this will help me remember that with almost every pregnancy I reached a place where I felt the baby truly would never come. Of course, I recognized the irony-I couldn’t possibly continue growing this life within me without eventually delivering-same is true of His return or me going to meet Him. It WILL happen. In the meantime I pray I feed my spirit, soul and body with life sustaining food-just as I fed my pregnant body.

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